You know the feeling: You’re having a conversation on a date, and you have absolutely no idea what to talk about.
We’re gonna make sure that you’ll never be in this situation ever again.
1: When you have no idea what to talk about
Anyone who went on a date probably knows the following scenario: You’re in a cafe with a person you barely know. You spend the first 15 minutes asking each other about your job, your studies, and then…
The conversation slowly dies. Here comes an incredibly awkward silence.
You start to fidget nervously. And you think:
“Sh*t… I don’t know what to talk about.”
So you say nothing and take a sip of your drink.
Silences don’t have to be awkward.
Only the silences that grow out of fear are uncomfortable: The fear of not being able to keep the conversation going.
A conversation is about stimulating emotions and getting to know each other. Sit back, relax and have fun.
2: Things to say to keep a conversation going
Hobbies? Studies? Work? You want to avoid these everyday topics as much as possible.
Of course, you can’t stop anyone from asking you boring questions like:
“So… What do you do?” Let’s say someone asks you this question. How do you turn the situation around and answer it in a cool way? By using it as an opportunity to have fun.
So make up crazy answers to boring questions.
“What do you do?” Instead of answering the predictable truth, you can say:
“I’m an astrophysicist. I’m building a space rocket to go and live on Mars for the rest of my life.”
The golden rule is to have fun.
Of course, if she keeps asking for a sincere answer, tell her the truth. People like humor, but they don’t want to be dating a clown.
3: How to add emotions to a story
Most guys tend to squeeze every bit of emotion out of their stories. That’s a mistake.
You should always put more emotions in your stories. This is how you connect on an emotional level with women (and people in general.)
When you tell a story, don’t be afraid to share details about your feelings and your thoughts.
4: Don’t be basic
In other words: An ordinary and predictable person.
If you make predictable jokes, people will usually lose interest for you in a second.
5: Give compliments
Mark Twain once said: “I can live for two months on a good compliment.”
He’s right. Compliments can be extremely powerful.
Being able to give compliments the right way will make you a more charismatic and attractive.