From emojis to the questions they ask, there are a few ways to spot the difference between how people text when they like you versus how they text when they’re just chatting as a friend. It’s a subtle art, but it really does come in handy when deciphering messages from your crush.
With texting, it’s so easy to miss a joke, misunderstand someone’s intentions, or even miss the fact they’re flirting entirely. But if you know what to look for, the signs will be there. When someone likes you, their texting habits will definitely change.
Here are a few ways to tell if someone likes you over text, according to experts.
They Reply Quickly
It’s a great sign if the person in question makes an effort to write back quickly as often as possible. In fact, one of the surest signs someone likes you over text is a fast response. It’s a way to show that you’re a priority in their life. It’s also a sign they enjoy talking to you and want to keep the conversation going.
Their Texts Are Engaging
They won’t give one word answers like “yep” or “idk.” Instead, they’ll share how they feel, tell you all about their day, and — most importantly — ask questions about your life. Basically, “your texting conversations will be deeper and meaningful,” and it’ll seem to be creating a greater bond.
They Let You Know When They’ll Be Busy
If someone likes you, they’ll make it clear when they’re going to be unavailable — maybe because they’re working, going to sleep, or seeing friends — instead of just leaving you to wonder why they stopped responding. Also they come back in contact straight after the unavailable period.
This is an indicator of consideration for you and that again affirms that the connection is important, they may not want you to get the wrong impression if they are out of touch.
They Apologize For Being Gone
While there’s no need to gravel after missing a text, it is a good sign if they offer a quick apology for missing your message. This shows that they are considerate since they don’t want to leave you wondering why they stopped responding to your texts, and that the connection you share is important to them.
They Start Saying “We”
Another giveaway that someone has a crush on you? They start saying “we” and “us.” Those pronouns suggest a greater sense of a couple or shared identity. In relationships, individuals merge and share their identity to become one. Using pronouns like we and us is a subtle sign that the process has already started.
They Dish Out The Compliments
Keep an eye out for compliments, it is yet another sign they like you. They’ll find ways to say you look great, that you’re funny, that they love talking to you — anything that makes it clear they’re interested in you as a person.
They Text First Thing In The Morning & Last Thing At Night
Take note of when someone texts you, especially if it’s first thing in the morning or right before bed. If someone is beginning or ending their day with you or showing up repeatedly throughout the day to just say hello, you are more significant to them than you may realize.
They Want To Do More Than Text
All of that said, the most telling sign of all is a desire to move past texting. Do they want to talk on the phone? Chat via FaceTime? Meet up in person? If so, you may have a budding romance on your hands as it shows they want to invest more time and energy.
Should you notice any of these texting habits, and if it seems like you’re hitting it off, it very well may be true. Just try not to overthink it until you’ve had a chat to define the relationship. Until then, enjoy the moment, text ’em back, and see where things go from there.