Trying to figure out your relationship status with someone isn’t always easy, fortunately, we’ve drawn advice from dating experts to round up five key ways that can help to clue you in as to where you stand with your partner so you no longer have to wonder, “Are we dating?”

You Spend a Lot of Time Together

If you’re wondering if you and your partner are unofficially dating each other, take a closer look at the time that you spend together. Do you only hang out at 2 a.m. after a late-night text in which this person invites you over? Or do you spend multiple days and nights with one another throughout the week? When you’re dating someone, the two of you will want to spend as much time as you can together and will put in every effort to plan dates and outings.

You Talk About the Future

When you’re trying to figure out if you’re dating, it’s important to pay attention to the content of your conversations, especially when it comes to discussing your future together. Are you both planning ahead to set up times to hang out, inviting each other to events that are months away, or even discussing going on a trip together?. 

You’ve Met Each Other’s Friends 

If you’re dating someone, it’s not uncommon to introduce each other to your respective group of friends. However, if you’ve noticed that you haven’t met any of their crew and that this person tends to avoid the topic whenever possible, you’re likely not yet at the dating phase. “The reality is that if someone is only making time to see you infrequently, or only when it’s convenient for them, and doesn’t introduce you to friends and family, they’re not serious about you.”

You Open up to Each Other

How much do you really know about the person you’re seeing? When you’re dating someone, you’ll both want to open up to each other and share personal stories and anecdotes in order to get to know each other better and connect on a deeper level. When you’re both emotionally investing in each other by revealing more about who you are as a person, this is a clear sign that you’re dating.

You’ve Had the Talk

If you’re trying to determine if you and your partner are dating, you can always choose to sit down and have a real conversation about the current status of your relationship. While it may seem scary or intimidating at first, it’s important that you act as your own advocate and speak up for yourself about what you’d like to have with this person going forward. Whether you’re looking for something serious or something more casual, checking in and engaging in a face-to-face conversation can help to manage expectations and prevent potential heartache down the road.

“Too much of the drama in new relationships is about guessing, double-guessing, and triple-guessing what the other person wants, making both people feel crazy. So use your words.”

It’s in your best interest to talk about what’s going on between the two of you so that you’re not wasting your time with someone who doesn’t want the same things that you do. This kind of conversation can help to solidify and confirm that you’re both into each other and that you both want to take your current relationship to the next level.